We all crave feeling respected, understood, and emotionally safe with our partners. When these areas of intimacy are lacking, it creates an environment of hostility that makes it impossible to be vulnerable or work through conflicts openly and honestly.
Relationship counselling in Hertfordshire can help you to identify and resolve contentious issues. You will be guided and facilitated in learning communication skills to express your frustrations without fear or anxiety. Disagreements could be seen as an opportunity to understand each other on a deeper level that can enforce deeper connections to one another.
Red Flag 1: Betrayal of Trust
Our trust in one another can be broken for many different reasons. It could be due to one catastrophic event, like infidelity, emotionally or physically. Or it could be due to small incidences over a long period of time that are cumulative.
They can create reservoirs of anger, hurt, and distrust that compound over time if left unresolved. They can be historical over many years that have been buried and ignored, only to erupt at a crossroads in your lives. Be that redundancy and/or financial crisis, bringing up children and all the challenges that that may bring. The added daily stressors of life that build up, can awaken old wounds of mistrust and resentments.
Obviously, every situation is different. Some betrayals can be unforgivable and may mean that the healthiest choice is to part ways. But often, with hard work and the right support system, broken trust bonds can be mended.
How? Guided by my many years of experience working with couples and my expertise, you can slowly learn how to extend empathy towards one another. With the right tools and communication methods, both parties can start to consistently meet each other’s individual needs for security, transparency, and trustworthiness. This will help you both build a stronger foundation in your relationship for your future together.
Red Flag 2: You Feel Trapped or Resentful About Making Sacrifices
Healthy relationships require compromise from both sides. We all have to demonstrate selfless acts and little sacrifices for our partners sometimes in order that we convey our love and commitment towards one another.
But there’s a fine line. If those sacrifices start to feel massively one-sided or you feel that you are giving up too many of your core values and dreams, toxicity can set in with damaging affects over time.
If you constantly feel like you’re the one doing all the heavy lifting while your partner just coasts along, that can breed deep resentment over time.
Relationship counselling in Hertfordshire will help you both get to the root of why those specific issues keep you stuck in an endless cycle of unproductive disagreements and arguments. Most importantly, I will equip you with effective tools to finally work through pervasive behavioural conflicts in a lasting, constructive way.
Contact me now and make a lasting difference today!
